I deal with weasels. A lot. They like power because they are very insecure about their little weasel parts.

Weasels don't think they look like a weasel. They think they look like cats. And the snake is a present.

Weasels don’t think they look like a weasel. They think they look like cats. And the snake is a present.

Many of the weasels I deal with have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). However, they don’t and will never know it. Weasels think they are adorable cats. (And that is why the internet is full of cat pictures.)

NPD lies somewhere in the middle of the Weasel Spectrum that starts with Garden Variety Jerk, through Asshole to NPD, then on to Borderline and Sociopath. So Narcissist Weasels are somewhere in the middle. Remember though, the Weasel Spectrum does not run from Good to Bad. It runs from Bad to Serial Killer.

According to the DSM-5, Narcissistic Weasels:

  • Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance and entitlement
  • Expect to be recognized as superior without achievements that warrant it
  • Exaggerate their achievements and talents
  • Believe they are superior and can only be understood by or associate with equally special people
  • Require constant admiration
  • Take advantage of others to get what they want
  • Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others (no sympathy or empathy)
  • Are highly sensitive to criticism or perceived insults

That seems bad, but it doesn’t begin to explain what it is like to live or work with a Narcissistic Weasel because:

  • They must always be the center of attention and will create drama if there isn’t enough or it’s not about them.
  • They must have control over information, people, power, resources, and money to maintain their central position and delusion of importance.
  • They never compromise because that would end the drama and engagement, and there would be nothing left to control.
  • They only hear what they want to hear and see what they want to see. This is because in order to make their world small enough so that they can be the center and in control, they have to be experts at editing reality. Most can do it in real time. A Narcissistic Weasel will tell you indignantly what you just said, then call you a liar and crazy when you explain you said nothing of the kind. They also insist that everything that does not match their world view is wrong or never happened.
  • They are always the victim of anything that goes wrong, and never, ever caused it.
  • There is no middle ground, ever. It’s either right or wrong, good or bad. Right and good is what the Narcissistic Weasel wants and likes. Wrong and bad, what they don’t like.
  • The rules do not apply to them. They do not keep agreements, won’t follow rules or policies, and often don’t comply with court orders unless they would look really, really bad. But they will always be the first to point out the tiniest error or infraction by everyone around them, followed by excruciating details on how much inconvenience it caused them.
  • They keep elaborate mental score of all their resentments, every time they have been wronged, and every mistake anyone (except them, of course) has ever made. Narcissistic Weasels will use this information against you every chance they get, if they are not already using it to justify whatever outrageous behavior they are doing this time.
  • They firmly believe there is absolutely nothing wrong with them. Any criticism, no matter how constructive or slight, is met with mocking denial and/or rage. Whenever criticized, Narcissistic Weasels will immediately begin to recite everything that is wrong with You.

You probably work with at least one. About ten percent of the population has either NPD, Borderline, or both, with a little over six percent being Narcissist Weasels.

Next, we’ll talk about when and how to manage a Narcissistic Weasel.

Related Posts:

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  3. Weasel Management: How to Deal With Weasels
  4. Weasel Management: 5 Links